10 Ways to Find Movement When You're Stuck
Stuck-ness is part of putting our work in the world. When we take a little objective distance from it, we can see that getting stuck is a valuable teacher. It helps us see when it’s time to make a change or shift, or call in some extra help. Getting stuck is easier to move through when we embrace an experimental mindset and develop the muscles that allow us to notice + adjust. Stuck-ness isn’t a sign of failure— it’s just information.
Stay curious. Curiosity keeps us open to the next step, and helps us become conscious of our patterns. When we panic— I’M FEELING STUCK!!!!!- our sympathetic nervous system gets activated and it becomes almost impossible to take action. We’re in lock-down mode.
Create space. Schedule space in your life where your mind can wander and you can connect with your intuition. Walking (without input like music or podcasts) is especially wonderful. Even ten minutes goes far.
Write it down. Practice neutral noticing— literally write down how you’re feeling/what you’re observing in yourself and where you’re feeling stuck. Writing it down helps us see patterns and begin to make shifts.
Create immediate movement. If you’re trying to finish a specific task or experiencing resistance, try asking one of these questions.
Make space to ask the bigger questions. If you’re noticing recurring stuckness, go to the root. Focus your action by asking yourself the deeper questions. (And, limit the time you dive into these questions because they are BIG questions— and over-consideration can ALSO leave us stuck.)
Take action before you’re ready. Reflection is a wonderful tool, AND clarity often comes from taking the next step and then observing the outcome. We will never feel 100% ready.
Take care of your needs. What do you need? What does your business need? It’s hard to find movement when our needs aren’t being met. Sometimes asking these questions - with self-compassion- allows us to see what kind of support might be missing.
Find community. Acknowledging your stuck places out loud helps them begin to shift, and prevents us from finding ourselves in a cycle of self-loathing, shame, or decision paralysis. You only need a couple of trusted people.
Notice your feelings. So often unprocessed feelings are the force that leaves us stuck. Regular movement (walking, breathing, dancing), therapy, and safe emotional outlets help us stay emotionally open.
A note on decisions. If you find yourself stuck because of a decision, encourage yourself to move outside the binary of THIS CHOICE or THAT CHOICE, whenever possible. Are there steps you can take to explore an option and see how it feels? Are there ways to care for yourself internally without attaching the shift to an EXTERNAL change?